Divorce

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What Dies After Divorce?

Deathtails of Divorce

It’s not a typo, the deathtails (or details) of divorce, at least in this post, are about what dies in divorce.  It’s a tough thing to think about but maybe by saying it out loud, we can spare others from a similar experience.  The marriage is over, but that isn’t necessarily what kids think about. …

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talking to children about divorce

What You Say Matters

In our work, we often assist parents who are trying survive and thrive through their divorce and they express a deep need to protect their children from what we all know as one of life’s toughest transitions.  Depending on the age of the kids, we may judge their ability to digest what is happening.  It’s…

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Life Insurance

What to Do When Your Term Life Insurance Is Expiring

In an ideal world, you buy life insurance when your kids are young or you’ve purchased your first home, and you need the coverage only for about 20 years. By the time your policy nears the end of its term, your kids are on their own, your house is mostly paid off, and you’ve accumulated…

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Willpower and Healthy Money Habits - Bonnie Sewell - American Capital Planning

How to Replace Willpower in Spending

Nobody dropped out of our plant-based lifestyle group class after the first week.  Comparing notes, others lost 5 lbs. just like I did.  Changing habits is a universal challenge among the classmates I spoke to.  Not eating any dairy, meat, or any other animal products along with no sugar, no oil and no added salt…

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How The Divorce Financial Planning Process Works

You may be wondering how the divorce financial planning process works. To get you through your divorce negotiations successfully, you’ll need a road map which is our flat fee financial analysis.  For this analysis, we first talk about what you need and what you want.  Then we look at what you owe, what you own,…

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We’re Getting Divorced – Will I Get Spousal Support?

A question we’re often asked is “Will I get spousal support?”. The answer is, maybe.  Spousal support, also known as alimony or maintenance, is a transfer of income, generally from the spouse who earns more to the spouse who earns less. It’s often based on the ability of the higher earner to pay and the…

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Why You Need A Divorce Financial Planner

A question we’re often asked is “I know I need an attorney for my divorce, but are there other professionals I should hire?” Absolutely!  Attorneys know the law, but law school does not provide the necessary training to completely offer divorce financial planning advice.  You need a divorce financial planner.  Someone with the experience, expertise,…

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Book List

Financial Advisor for Divorce

Love-Jacked! Divorce Your Spouse, Not Your Dollars

Excerpt From Kirkus Reviews

The book begins with an outline of current divorce models, from those negotiated entirely without lawyers to those dragged through the overburdened family law courts. Her central argument is that, for most people, there's a better way: fair negotiation through financial planning.  Through a series of examples and anecdotes, she builds a convincing case for making professional financial planning the centerpiece of a successful divorce.

Excerpt from Amazon review (from a former divorce lawyer)

This author provides an alternative to the "shot in the dark" approach. An approach that takes much of the mystery out of the divorce finances.  It does a great job of surveying the traditional approaches and detailing a very effective approach to dealing with finances in divorce.

Book cover of Raising the Kid you love with the Ex you hate by Edward Farber

Raising the Kid You Love With the Ex You Hate

Powerful advice for you and your ex-spouse on how to reduce conflict and protect your children's well-being while co-parenting

You and your former wife/husband are struggling to be civil to each other and you recognize the conflicts could be damaging to your child. Dr. Farber, a clinical child psychologist who's been in practice for 30+ years, knows what you're up against. He writes compassionately and insightfully about the concrete, doable steps you can take to avoid letting differences with your ex get in the way of being the best mom or the best dad you can be.

Conflicts inevitably arise from living in two households. You don't have to like your ex, but, if you are going to co-parent successfully, you will still have to deal with your ex. Dr. Farber helps you navigate the upheaval with practical advice based on real-world families. His book shows you how to

  • Know what to say, and not to say, to your child about separation and divorce
  • Cope with child support and other money issues
  • Handle the holidays and special family occasions
  • Choose and adjust to new schools
  • Introduce your child to a potential new partner
  • Co-parent when an ex has a personality disorder, addiction problem, or is a bully
  • Decide when to recruit the help of a parent coordinator
  • Raise a healthy child while co-parenting

You'll draw strength and encouragement from the positive outcomes he's helped hurting parents and children achieve as they confronted such gripping problem areas. Dr. Farber's expert analysis and counsel will show you how to use co-parenting to turn your broken marriage into a working divorce that supports the emotional and developmental health of your children caught in the crossfire.

Book Cover of Nola's Essential Guide to Divorce

Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce 4th Edition

Like most people who are going through a separation or divorce, you're probably wondering "What's next?" at every turn. Turn to Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce for clear answers that can help make your divorce simpler and reduce your expenses. You'll even learn how to successfully divorce with minimal help from an attorney.

With compassion and understanding, Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce will explain what you should expect

  • understand the divorce process
  • work with mediators or lawyers
  • avoid expensive and painful court battles
  • figure out alimony
  • establish child custody and visitation
  • determine child support
  • divide money and property fairly
  • draft a marital settlement agreement
  • deal with divorce emergencies
  • address post-divorce issues, and
  • negotiate and settle spousal support

On every page, this book stresses the importance of minimizing conflict, explains complex legal problems concisely, and provides advice on how to protect your interests. Plus, easy-to-use charts make it simple to find the divorce laws in your state.

While plenty of books out there claim to cover divorce thoroughly, only Nolo consistently delivers clear legal expertise and invaluable insights. Trust Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce to help you through every step.

The updated edition includes new information on bankruptcy and foreclosure, and explains how both can affect divorce. While plenty of books out there claim to cover divorce thoroughly, only Nolo consistently delivers clear legal expertise and invaluable insights. Trust Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce, to help you through every step.

Are you a California resident? Check out How to Do Your Own Divorce in California.