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Are We There Yet?

There are 336 days left in 2020 and only 49 days until spring!  If you’re counting, there are still 124 days before summer shows up.  That gives us time to get our financial house in order before midyear.  We are almost through January so the last couple days of this month can be used to…

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Friend(ly) Divorce

“Friendship is unnecessary,” C.S. Lewis wrote, “like philosophy, like art, like the universe itself… it has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.”  In a marriage, we can believe that our spouse is our best friend.  In some marriages, our spouse might be our only friend.  When we divorce, it…

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Blockchain & Banking – Can They Solve the Divorce Dilemma?

Without irony, I believe the Divorce Dilemma may be solvable by both blockchain and banking solutions. The problem we’re trying to solve:  Slowing, stopping and reversing the well documented poverty levels of divorced women and changing the outcomes for women who are wealthy during marriage and at risk for becoming poor through the divorce process. …

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The Luxury of Latch-key

The Luxury of Latch-Key

Back in 1966, when my dad first left our house and my parents later divorced, we were known locally as one of two “broken homes”.  We were definitely broke, but never broken.  We lived in the village of Clarendon Hills, Illinois, about 15 miles southwest of Chicago and less than 2 square miles big.  Route…

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I Just Got Divorced, Now What?

People often come to us and ask “I just got divorced, now what do I do?”. You’ve just come through one of life’s toughest transitions.  Now it’s time to become the best steward of your successfully negotiated settlement going forward.  To help you do that, American Capital Planning can provide fee-only, financial planning and fiduciary…

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Book List

Financial Advisor for Divorce

Love-Jacked! Divorce Your Spouse, Not Your Dollars

Excerpt From Kirkus Reviews

The book begins with an outline of current divorce models, from those negotiated entirely without lawyers to those dragged through the overburdened family law courts. Her central argument is that, for most people, there's a better way: fair negotiation through financial planning.  Through a series of examples and anecdotes, she builds a convincing case for making professional financial planning the centerpiece of a successful divorce.

Excerpt from Amazon review (from a former divorce lawyer)

This author provides an alternative to the "shot in the dark" approach. An approach that takes much of the mystery out of the divorce finances.  It does a great job of surveying the traditional approaches and detailing a very effective approach to dealing with finances in divorce.

Book cover of Raising the Kid you love with the Ex you hate by Edward Farber

Raising the Kid You Love With the Ex You Hate

Powerful advice for you and your ex-spouse on how to reduce conflict and protect your children's well-being while co-parenting

You and your former wife/husband are struggling to be civil to each other and you recognize the conflicts could be damaging to your child. Dr. Farber, a clinical child psychologist who's been in practice for 30+ years, knows what you're up against. He writes compassionately and insightfully about the concrete, doable steps you can take to avoid letting differences with your ex get in the way of being the best mom or the best dad you can be.

Conflicts inevitably arise from living in two households. You don't have to like your ex, but, if you are going to co-parent successfully, you will still have to deal with your ex. Dr. Farber helps you navigate the upheaval with practical advice based on real-world families. His book shows you how to

  • Know what to say, and not to say, to your child about separation and divorce
  • Cope with child support and other money issues
  • Handle the holidays and special family occasions
  • Choose and adjust to new schools
  • Introduce your child to a potential new partner
  • Co-parent when an ex has a personality disorder, addiction problem, or is a bully
  • Decide when to recruit the help of a parent coordinator
  • Raise a healthy child while co-parenting

You'll draw strength and encouragement from the positive outcomes he's helped hurting parents and children achieve as they confronted such gripping problem areas. Dr. Farber's expert analysis and counsel will show you how to use co-parenting to turn your broken marriage into a working divorce that supports the emotional and developmental health of your children caught in the crossfire.

Book Cover of Nola's Essential Guide to Divorce

Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce 4th Edition

Like most people who are going through a separation or divorce, you're probably wondering "What's next?" at every turn. Turn to Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce for clear answers that can help make your divorce simpler and reduce your expenses. You'll even learn how to successfully divorce with minimal help from an attorney.

With compassion and understanding, Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce will explain what you should expect

  • understand the divorce process
  • work with mediators or lawyers
  • avoid expensive and painful court battles
  • figure out alimony
  • establish child custody and visitation
  • determine child support
  • divide money and property fairly
  • draft a marital settlement agreement
  • deal with divorce emergencies
  • address post-divorce issues, and
  • negotiate and settle spousal support

On every page, this book stresses the importance of minimizing conflict, explains complex legal problems concisely, and provides advice on how to protect your interests. Plus, easy-to-use charts make it simple to find the divorce laws in your state.

While plenty of books out there claim to cover divorce thoroughly, only Nolo consistently delivers clear legal expertise and invaluable insights. Trust Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce to help you through every step.

The updated edition includes new information on bankruptcy and foreclosure, and explains how both can affect divorce. While plenty of books out there claim to cover divorce thoroughly, only Nolo consistently delivers clear legal expertise and invaluable insights. Trust Nolo's Essential Guide to Divorce, to help you through every step.

Are you a California resident? Check out How to Do Your Own Divorce in California.